femme is genderqueer. because it’s gender, queered. it’s femininity without the passivity. it’s holding on to the parts of femininity that we love (and that is different for each femme) and mashing it up with all sorts of things that are considered unfeminine, like being assertive, or loud. divas are genderqueer. they are femme. they are all the performance of femininity minus the docility.

11 months ago  /  777 notes  /  Source: alittlequeerlove

In 2007, a British man charged with the rape of a 10-year-old girl was given concurrent two-year and 18-month jail sentences, as opposed to life in prison. The judge felt he was faced with “a moral dilemma” in this “exceptional case” because the victim regularly wore make-up, strappy tops and jeans, making her appear at least 16 years old — as though somehow her provocative clothing trumped her right to consent — assuming a child is even capable of consent. Cases like the above aren’t isolated anomalies in our legal systems. Rape cases are thrown out on the basis of the victim’s appearance — how they dress, act and speak — while instances of sexual harassment in the workplace are overlooked because of the victim’s sexual history. Women are constantly written off by their peers as worthless, irrelevant and less capable at the simple utterance of that four-letter word. The word slut has become a catch-all phrase used to defame a woman — one that has lost its meaning in society, while simultaneously carrying dark implications with its use.

11 months ago  /  1,313 notes  /  Source: janedoe225

When you tell me I’m confused about my gender, you really mean YOU’RE confused about my gender.

11 months ago  /  200 notes  /  Source: pansexualpride

What is sex, really? It’s not a penis going into a vagina. Nor is it a penis going into an orifice. Nor is it the touching of sexual organs. Sex is the pleasure obtained from arousal and intimacy. Without that, it’s a gynecologist appointment. So sticking your dick in someone means nothing. Gets you nothing. Absent the arousal and intimacy, it’s just an unhygienic gynecologist appointment. Not only is sticking yourself in someone not right to do without their enthusiastic participation, it’s not even sex. Most of the things a person would really want from sex that they couldn’t get from masturbation—emotional comfort, ego reinforcement, social status, physical closeness—are not things you can take by force. I would like to spread the meme that rape isn’t getting laid by unethical means, it’s not getting laid at all.

11 months ago  /  2,362 notes  /  Source: pervocracy.blogspot.com

Why I have a hard time with the arguments that some people are simply adopting an identity for political expedience, and that even if they are, that their identities are less “real”: “My project would be to promote sex reassignment, gender alteration, temporary gender adventure, and the mutilation of gender categories, via surgery, hormones, clothing, political lobbying, civil disobedience, or any other means available. But that political commitment itself, if revealed to the gatekeepers of my surgery, disqualifies me. One therapist said to me, “You’re really intellectualizing this, we need to get to the root of why you feel you should get your breasts removed. How long have you felt this way?” Does realness reside in the length of time a desire exists? Are women who seek breast enhancement required to answer these questions? Am I supposed to be able to separate my political convictions about gender and my knowledge of the violence of gender rigidity (which has been a part of my life and the lives of everyone I care about) from my real “feelings” about what it means to occupy my gendered body?

11 months ago  /  211 notes  /  Source: pinebark